familytravel

Just spent the morning sketching out a Shanghai-Suzhou trip for an Australian family of four. The dad sent me a voice note last night: "I showed the kids photos of the water towns, and now they will not stop asking when we are going." That voice note is going to keep me going all week. Here is the route we landed on: three nights in Shanghai (Bund view, Yuyuan Garden, a food tour through the old lanes), then a day trip to Suzhou by high-speed train (23 minutes, ¥40). The kids are 9 and 12, so I added a stop at the Shanghai Natural History Museum and a evening cruise on the Huangpu River. The mom asked me: "Is Suzhou worth it for just one day?" I told her: Suzhou is the Venice of the East, except the canals actually still have locals living along them. One day is enough to see the Humble Administrators Garden, walk a canal street, and eat the best xiaolongbao of your life before catching the train back. Monday morning — coffee in hand, a full week ahead, a family excited about their China trip. Not a bad way to start the week.

Summer break is coming and my two girls have already started their campaign for the best summer ever. My 6-year-old wants to see pandas again (we went to Chengdu last year and she still talks about it). My 4-year-old just wants to swim. Win-win: I found a hotel in Chongqing with an indoor pool AND a panda-themed kids club. Booked it in 10 minutes. Sometimes being a travel planner means planning for your own family too. If you are traveling to China with kids this summer, send me a message. I have a list of hotels that actually welcome children — not just tolerate them.

The most common question I get from families: "Is China safe for kids?" Short answer: yes. Long answer: I've been raising my two kids here for years, and the things I worry about in China are different from what parents worry about back home. I don't worry about stranger danger — Chinese people adore children and will go out of their way to help if your kid is upset. A crying child in a Chinese park attracts grandmas like a magnet. They'll produce snacks, toys, and comforting pats from nowhere. I don't worry about traffic — Chinese drivers are chaotic but aware. They expect pedestrians to do unpredictable things. What I do worry about: heat (summers are brutal in most cities), food spice levels (my kids eat mild, ask for 不辣 at restaurants), and bathroom access (not all public toilets are kid-friendly — I always scout one before the kids announce they need it). More detailed tips on the family travel guide. But the bottom line: if you survived a trip with kids anywhere, you'll survive China. And your kids will eat more dumplings than you thought possible.

My youngest asked me last night: 'Mama, do you plan trips for other families the same way you plan for us?' Made me stop and think. No, I don't. Not at all. When I plan for clients, it's all spreadsheets and time blocks and backup plans. Train A at 8:47. Buffer of 40 minutes. Restaurant B confirmed. Weather check at C. I treat their time like it's precious because it is — they flew 20 hours to be here. When I plan for my own family? Chaos. We miss trains. We eat lunch at 4 PM because the kids wanted to stay at the playground. We change plans on the fly. My husband has learned to stop asking 'what's the schedule' and just enjoy wherever we end up. But here's the thing I told my kid: both approaches work. A well-planned trip gives you confidence. An unplanned afternoon gives you memories. The trick is knowing which one you need right now. She didn't fully understand. But she will.